If we are going to bring our lives more fully into agreement with God and His kingdom, the primary thing we need is a burning conviction that God is good. I believe that the failure to understand and pursue this provision of God has led many people to die in the unnecessary tragedy of never having their God-given dreams and desires fulfilled.
Often we blame others around us for not supporting us in the pursuit of our dreams. The sober reality is that most dreams go unfulfilled because of the lack of favor (support) with God and man. We are responsible for choosing our actions and reactions.
We all seek that elusive quality of “happiness.” Here are some things you can place your awareness on and STOP so you can be happier.
- Impressing.What you have—your possessions, your accomplishments—don’t result in real relationships or lasting happiness.
- Blaming. Your response to any situation is your choice.Try making it a learning opportunity—taking responsibility is empowering.
- Controlling.It doesn’t help you feel good about yourself. Honor your boundaries, but make space for others’ needs and choices, too.
- Criticizing. We are all unique and different, not better or worse. Appreciate the differences instead of zeroing in on shortcomings.
- Whining. Complaining is ineffective, whereas asking for what you want is liberating.
- Clinging to what is known.When you’re feeling afraid or insecure, be willing to let go of the familiar, take a risk and try something new.
- Being Ungrateful.Stay aware of all the gifts and blessings that you do have. Express gratitude and happiness will follow.
- Lecturing. Another form of judging. Find more fun and empowering ways to share your knowledge.
- Negative Self-talk.Train yourself to notice your mind’s chatter. Working towards changing negative thoughts to positive ones will transform your life.
- Fear. Don’t let fear get in the way of progress. Whatever you’ve been dreaming, get going on it. “Feel the fear and do it anyway.”
If you find yourself stuck in any of the unproductive habits above, please call a family counselor in San Diego at the Center for Family Unity at 619-884-0601
